07.01.2005
It is not easy for a Christian sexologist to speak about sex; since a long time it is taboo, a taboo that we are trying to exorcize with a too much liberty of those which really doesn't know how to consummate Love and sex, since there aren't adults able to explain it to the new generations.
It's easy to say "abstain from doing it", it is also easy to say "You can consummates it only after the marriage, procreating", not to make it only a pleasure.
It's easy to speak and to tell our own conscience "I have warned them, I have told them what to do; when they act in a different way, so much the worse for them, cause they have not taken my advice! "
Catholic priests have destroyed the natural love relationship to devote themselves with body and soul to God. To God?
Or, rather, in the dark, they, hidden among the awnings, give their selves to a colleague, when it is not a little boy, a little girl and so on..?
There are so many skeletons of small fetuses in the closet, killed for they can't be discovered and accused.
Since God has created us males and females, love and sex must not be considered like a sin.
How many creatures fed of ignorance sit down every day to my desk.
Ancient misogynous men that have managed and they are still managing this matter, they will be sued in the presence of the God Saint Court, I am sure of it.
What was beautiful lies in the sewer, in the darkness.
When you say to a baby not to look in the drawer of the candy because this is a sin and then you realize that he's peeping into it, you lock the drawer and you don't explain in what the sin consists. The baby will try everything to steal you the key, to take the candy and to eat them, he won't be satisfied only in ogling them.
And the same thing happens for Love; the conviction, falsely thrown on the shoulders of Eva, it has been the motivation that caused the separation between sex and love, between sex and emotion and poetry.
Luckily, it isn't so for everybody, but it is only the ignorance caused by the great taboo existing that don't enable to solve the matter.
Years ago, when the voluntary abortion was admitted, in the hospital where I was giving service, the girls under the 18 years considered the abortion as a contraceptive; but who did explain them how their body was made? Anybody!
I am a doctor maybe too much in the forefront, but I assert that the knowledge of sexology has to be taught in the classrooms and prepare the people in a concrete way, so that they can be free and autonomous to know, to understand and live the love in a couple.
Curiosity brings to morbid ness! All that goes out of the normal schemes, must be considered psychological illness, caused by childhood traumas or by first youth traumas.
Also the boredom puts on the dock hundreds, thousand of people, just as the fear, the loneliness, the war; money, finally, is the first reason of the sex market.
A Christian physician cannot only shout "You, don't do it, be chaste, be pure" nor a priest can say it, since God has never told it; He only covered His face not to incinerate, with His fair look, those people who undertake to bring His word in the world…His word?
Certainly no!
I will repeat to whoever reads and listen to me: to go out of this wound, the only things useful are good culture, teaching without taboo, without false modesty, or shame of our own body; until our body is considered and lived as an object for pleasure or seen in a sin perspective and judged dirty, there will be no peace in the people's hearts and souls.
After all, the being is still as a greedy child who loves forbidden things! It is like a competition between whom drinks more Coke to burp heavier…
ALBA G. |